Guest Blogger: 5 Life Lessons I Learned from Disney Princesses

Happy Disney Day, cats and kittens! Today we have a wonderful guest post brought to you by B, and we can’t recommend her enough to our fellow wordpressers.

As you surely know by now, we are fans of Disney Princesses. We believe that they have much more to offer than people think they do and in fact, the immediate dismissal of every female character ever is kind of the problem, in our not-so-humble opinions. So we love when people like B talk about the impact of the Princesses in a positive light. Enjoy!

“You remind me of someone,” my new co-worker insisted. It was day two at my new retail job and I was pretty sure it was the first time we had ever met. Other than the case of mistaken identity, things were going well. Sure, I wasn’t exactly the most helpful of employees, but I figured for the time being I could make up for it with my friendly demeanor and positive attitude.

Later, when I was waving good-bye to a customer, my co-worker had a flash of inspiration. “It’s Rapunzel! You know, like from the movie.” Pointing out the fact that she’s a fictional character didn’t stop her from drawing the comparison. “You’ve got long blonde hair, you’re cheerful…I bet you even sing all day!”

As someone who has studied the Disney princess way for most of her life I was secretly flattered. (I used to climb up on the arms of my sofa and practice being Ariel on the rocks.) The Disney princess archetype is often used symbolically to illustrate society’s gender stereotyping in early childhood (see Peggy Orenstein’s Cinderella Ate My Daughter) but I think as women’s lives continue to be affected by the subversive forms oppression that still exist in society (i.e., the wage gap, overrepresentation in service industry and health care jobs, etc.) there may be a way of turning the stereotype on its head.

After all, aren’t the Disney princesses oppressed as well? Sure, the majority of them are privileged (and white) but many of them are ruled by patriarchy, or at least require a man to save them from their fates. Those types of fairytales might not always exist in real life, but in the meantime there’s still something to be learned from their stories, even when we’re feeling sad and beaten down by the man.

  1.  Make music. It’s kind of a Disney princess law that you have to sing. Don’t mistake this for a coincidence-obviously they all went to the same finishing school or something. Luckily, we can all relate to them a lot more because they’re not going around and throwing it all in our faces about how they were classically trained. Instead, true Disney princesses use this talent as a coping mechanism- Elsa and Ariel get to process their teenage angst, Anna and Aurora work out their romantic feelings in song instead of stalking their princes on Facebook, and Cinderella creates an alternate reality for herself because she’s having trouble coping with the whole “indentured servitude” thing.
  2. Cultivate hobbies, not just because you’re locked away in a tower, or because you’re waiting for your prince to save you. Pursue your own interests because it makes you interesting, because it’s something to talk about, and because it gives you something to care about in this mad, sad world of ours. Lots of Disney princesses resort to music (see #1) but Snow White bakes, Rapunzel paints, and Ariel is to humans like Jane Goodall is to gorillas.
  3. Find your tribe, because these poor girls are often lacking in caring, responsible parental figures, or sometimes have none at all. Being isolated from family and friends is unfortunately a pattern that exists as often in Disney princess movies as it does in real life. Even the nuclear families depicted in movies such as Frozen, Sleeping Beauty, or Rapunzel are often estranged, or their structures are disrupted, so it’s natural that the princesses become driven to seek out new connections in order to recreate a family dynamic. (This often involves #4)
  4. Befriend animals. It’s the Disney princess way. Woodland critters, deep sea creatures and even magical snowmen all seem to find their way into the princesses (and audiences’) hearts. These cute, loveable characters always make an appearance in Disney movies. It’s not just because anthropomorphism is a good literary device for kids. Having contact with the animal kingdom can not only be good for your health, it’s good for your soul. Just don’t take it too far and invite a squirrel to your next brunch or something.
  5. “Always be kind” is the advice that Cinderella’s mother gives her daughter as she lays dying, and while some may protest that’s it’s a corny line (and vintage Disney animation purists are screaming blasphemy at my reference to a live-action princess film), putting it into practice can sometimes be a challenge. If the Disney princess world is similar to the one we grew up in, then they too were taught from an early age to suck it up and find kind words for even the villains that would do them harm. (Ok, so maybe Rapunzel suffered from Stockholm Syndrome but give the girl a break; she spent most of her life locked up in a tower.)

Looking back on my time working in retail, I realize how often I came back to these lessons when dealing with a difficult situation, like an unhappy customer or a temperamental colleague. Losing your cool and lashing out is an easy choice because it feels pretty good to let out all of that anger and frustration. The decision to remain calm requires a lot more strength. Brownie points if you can do the whole thing with a smile on your face.

So I’m not apologizing for channeling my inner Disney princess at my job, or anywhere else in my life. Yes, as women we are conditioned to act passively and acquiesce. But I see the ways that the Disney princesses find meaning and joy in their lives despite their oppression as a quiet and sometimes necessary strength, even if it is considered stereotypical of my gender.  It doesn’t matter if you’re confined to a castle, underneath a spell or simply working a bad retail job to make ends meet- if you can make like a Disney princess and find compassion and acceptance in your heart, then you’ve found your greatest strength of all.

PS: We’ve created a new category in the spirit of Princess Appreciation. It’s called… Princess Appreciation. Now watch as we fill it up with post upon post about princesses.

PPS: Please share your positive experiences with the Princesses on WordPress/Twitter/whatever and let us know so we can share them too!

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4 comments

  1. Tremendous guest post. Really nice to hear positive words about the princesses. I’ve taken some life lessons from them, especially Anna from Frozen.

    Excited to see Princess Appreciation on 0wlmachine!!!

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  2. I love the disney princesses! Ariel has always been my favourite princess, I used to sign forms using her name and my own last name haha. I think, although some of the princess stories do come across as sexist, they also have some brilliant moments and I don’t like people who say all the princesses just want to be saved- they do more than that!! Your post has inspired me to write my own disney princess post!! 🙂

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  3. Wow! Thanks so much for the support! I’m so glad to hear there are other people out there who feel like there’s a happy spin to the Disney princess stories as well. I happen to think the princesses would approve of our positive attitudes. 🙂

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